Let’s talk erotic dreams
Erotic Dreams: The Differences between men & women and what it says about us
4 Differences Between Men and Women when it comes to erotic dreams
One of the things that has kept surprising me during my career as a sleep expert and coach for adults is the number of people who are worried or intrigued about the number of erotic dreams they are experiencing (say hello to our mainly strict conservative (bordering to unhealthy) upbringing).
So people have different reactions to erotic dreams. Some wonder about the meaning behind them.
Some . . . Let me rephrase that: A LOT) feel guilty. Others love the experience.
I say, there is nothing to feel guilty about.
I see erotic dreams as a safe place to explore our sexuality and fantasies. They are an indicator that we are living, breathing, sexual beings.
Yes, dreams are connected to our emotions, experiences, and mental health, which is why anxiety or depression can cause recurring nightmares or spending a blissful day with your loved ones can result in a magical dream afterwards. Our psyche needs dreams to digest our emotional experiences throughout the day. (By the way if we have too much unresolved baggage banked up throughout the day guess what happens when you wake up at 2 am...hello monkey mind... good thing that I have strategies to help you with that . . . just saying).
However, having reoccurring sexual dreams doesn’t mean that you should look for explanations behind every dream. Having an erotic dream about a barista at Starbucks doesn’t mean you are attracted to him or her in real life or that you want to cheat on your partner. (Granted it is weirder if you actually know the person you dreamt about . . . next time you see them --> awkward but don't worry, they can't see inside your head phew!) So, don’t overthink it and embrace the experience! I am giving you a green pass to dream as erotically as you can muster!
Now that we’ve cleared that up, let’s look at some of the differences between men and women when it comes to erotic dreams ( no judgement, only science).
Dreaming remains a mysterious part of our daily lives. Philosophers, psychologists, and neuroscientists have been putting forth theories that explain various aspects of dreaming for thousands of years, but we still don’t fully understand this function.
So if you have an erotic dream that gives you pleasure and allows you to explore your sexual fantasies, don’t wonder why. It does not define you, make you a bad person and is a sign that you should be cheating on your partner.